Long before the second line appears, a child’s story has already begun in the lives of the two people who will call her in, and conscious conception is the art of making that calling an act of love, chosen with open eyes and open hearts, so that the very first moment of a new life is met by two people who are present, willing and glad.
The miracle of conception
Conception is a miracle in every sense. The window in which it can happen is small, the journey upstream to meet the egg is long, and the fertilised egg still travels on to the womb to settle into its lining, a passage that asks for a body and a heart ready to receive. Syntropy is at work here at its most intimate, life gathering itself toward greater order inside two people who have made room for it.
As with all things living, from conception on, pregnancy and birth are one continuous life process, such is the beautiful nature of Syntropy in our Human Ecology, both inner and outer.
Souvereign
Conceived in love
The Birth Into Being lineage that first gave this field its name holds conception as the first imprint of all, the moment a child receives its earliest felt answer to the question of whether it is wanted, and Elena Tonetti-Vladimirova writes that conscious birth “starts with Conscious Conception, which in turn is the result of Conscious Love”. A couple who comes together with the intention of welcoming a soul, in a quiet and unhurried space where both feel safe, desired and fully willing, gives that soul a first experience of life as something offered in joy.
Many couples prepare for that moment the way they would prepare for any sacred threshold: speaking aloud to the child they hope to welcome, sharing what they wish to offer as parents, making the room beautiful, and letting love-making be a celebration of the two of them long before it becomes a project with a calendar. Jeannine Parvati Baker’s Conscious Conception remains one of the deepest guides on the shelf for this part of the journey.
A compass made of feeling
Every child arrives carrying a Will, the feeling-based compass that knows her yay and her nay long before she has words for either, and the household she lands in either honours that compass or slowly teaches her to set it aside. Parents who listen for their own yay and nay, noticing where their bodies soften and where they tighten, and letting those feelings guide their choices together, are already building the home in which a young Will can stay whole, so that the child grows up in a family where feelings are trusted as navigation from the very first day.
Conscious Pre-conception
The season before conception is the season of planning, a generous stretch of months in which a couple prepares in the body, in the relationship and in the imagination, and the state of a mother and father during this time becomes the very first environment their child meets.
Clearing the ground
Every parent carries the imprint of their own arrival, the felt record of how they were conceived, carried and born, and that record travels quietly into the next generation until it is met. Pre-conception is the season for meeting it: easing the stories of our own births, tending the fears we picked up along the way, healing what earlier births or old hurts left in the body, and giving the relationship itself room to become a safe place for a child to land. The Limbic Imprint is the name many birth keepers give to that early record, and many people begin simply by asking their own parents, while they still can, how they themselves came into being.
A season of preparation
- Tell each other the stories of your own births, ask your parents and elders what they remember of your arrival, and let whatever feeling rises have its full place in the room.
- Nourish both bodies through these months with whole food, clean water, deep rest and time outdoors, since the egg and the sperm that will one day meet are maturing through this very season.
- Make love a priority, and let intimacy stay a practice of presence and delight.
- Tend the relationship as the first home your child will know, clearing old resentments and building the habit of speaking feelings out loud while the household is still just the two of you.
- Fill your imagination with birth as it can be through the Conscious Books and Conscious Films, so that the pictures you carry into pregnancy are pictures of trust, joy and ease.
Both of you, from the very start
A father’s emotional readiness counts as much as a mother’s, as an equal partner in the relationship and an equal contributor to the life being called in. A couple who meets the season before conception together, speaking their hopes and fears out loud and tending each other’s wellbeing, is already living the two words that will carry them through the months ahead: we are pregnant.